J and I have noticed certain aspects of Sam's personality over the past several years, particularly that he feels most comfortable when he is with just a few people that he knows really well. When he's at home with us, he's very chatty, happy and even silly, but he tends to get quieter when he is placed in big group situations. J, who is an introvert, often tells Sam, "You are your father's son!"
Anyhow, this morning it was interesting to hear Sam's own thoughts about the way that he interacts with people. We haven't really prompted him to think much about his personality or the way that he interacts with people, but Sam started up this conversation earlier today:
Sam: "I'm the person who talks the least at school."
Me: "Well, that's just fine. That's okay." [Pause] "Why do you think that you talk the least at school?"
Sam: "I can't talk a lot at school because there are too many people there. I can't talk to all of them at the same time!"
Sam is quite spot-on in his observations. He doesn't like talking when he is in large groups of people. He gets overwhelmed. Even yesterday, during Thanksgiving dinner, he didn't want to talk to our friends when everyone was together in the dining area. But then when he went into the living room, where our friend L was sitting with her baby girl, Sam opened up and wanted to tell L all about the different characters in Star Wars.
I love my introverted boy. And I love my introverted husband. (It doesn't matter to me whether I have extroverts or introverts in my family; I am an ambivert, myself.) I think it's good that we have a small and close-knit family; our small size fits well with the personalities and emotional needs of its members.
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It makes me feel good that Sam is goofy around our family! I also feel good that Jeremy talks to us as well. We have been accepted! We, of course, love you guys just as you are.
That is so sweet that he wants to talk to everyone, but doesn't know how to do it when they're all together. He seems like a very thoughtful, delightful boy. :)
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